Kisa Gotami

Not to be confused with Krisha Gautami.

Kisa Gotami before Buddha

Kṛśā Gautamī (Sanskrit: कृशा गौतमी; Pali: Kisā Gotamī) was the wife of a wealthy man of Shravasti. Her story is one of the most famous ones in Buddhism.

After losing her only child, Kisa Gotami became desperate and asked if anyone could help her. Her sorrow was so great that many thought she had lost her mind.

After some time, an old man told her to see the Buddha. The Buddha told her that he could bring the child back to life if she could find white mustard seeds from a family where no one had died. She desperately went from house to house in search of such a case, but to her disappointment, she could not find a house that had not suffered the death of a family member. Finally, the realization struck her that there is no house free from mortality. She returned to the Buddha, who comforted her and preached the Dharma to her.

She became awakened and entered the first stage of enlightenment and eventually became an arhat. The Buddha appointed her foremost in discipline among the bhikṣuṇīs.[1]

Theravada

The following Dhammapada verse[2] (in Pali and English) is associated with her story:

Yo ca vassasatam jeeve apassam amatam padam Ekaaham jeevitam seyyo passato amatam padam

Though one should live a hundred years without seeing the Deathless State, yet better indeed, is a single day's life of one who sees the Deathless State.

In the "Gotami Sutta" (SN 5.3), Bhikkhuni Kisa Gotami declares:

I've gotten past the killing of [my] sons,

have made that the end

to [my search for] men.

I don't grieve,

I don't weep....

It's everywhere destroyed — delight.

The mass of darkness is shattered.

Having defeated the army of death,

free of fermentations I dwell.[3]

Happy indeed is the mother
Happy indeed is the father
Happy indeed is the wife
Who is a lord so glorious

The story is the source of the popular aphorism: "The living are few, but the dead are many".

A literary tradition has evolved round the story of Kisa Gotami, much of it in oral form and in local plays in much of Asia. The Therigatha (or "Verses of the Elder Nuns") in the Pali Canon recounts a version of the story. A number of popular similar alternative versions also exist.[4] A similar story is told about the Greek philosopher Demonax, who promised a person he can summon his deceased son's shadow if provided with three names of people who never had to mourn in their lives.[5]

References

1. Schiefner, Franz Anton; Ralston, W. R. S. (1906). "Chapter 11 - The story of Kṛśā Gautamī". Tibetan Tales: Derived from Indian Sources. Retrieved 16 January 2025.
2. Dhammapada, Ch. VIII, verse 114. See, for instance, Buddharakkhita (1996).[1]
3. Thanissaro (1998).
4. Richard Winter, Cambridge Buddhist Centre
5. Life of Demonax | Demonax The Works of Lucian of Samosata