This study aims to see the parenting  pattern in shaping  children?s independence of aged 4-6 years in Jorong Katimahar West Pasaman Regency. This study used a mixed method, which combines quantitative and qualitative approaches that involve data collection techniques in the form of a questionnaires used is analysed by  SPSS version 16. And by provided  interviews and documentation. Based on the results of data processing using aquestionnaire shwert  that most parents in Jorong Katimahar  West Pasaman Regency  district used democratic parenting as about as 60,95% the highest children?s independence of aged 4-6 years the parents answered often as about as 38.11%. And through interviews  5 respondents it can  be  concluded that parents used a pattern of democratic nurture and  independence which is is quite good this  results of this study it can be concluded that parenting patterns can shape the independence   children.