He was born in Phoenicia, New York, and grew up in Brooklyn.
He starting working for Metropolitan as an office boy, and rose to become chairman.
He was president, from 1929 to 1936.[2]
He was involved in the company's real estate investments: Parkchester, and Stuyvesant Town–Peter Cooper Village and Riverton Houses in Manhattan.[3] These projects were racially segregated, which Ecker justified by saying, "If we brought Negroes into these developments, it would be to the detriment of the city, because it would depress all the surrounding property.”[4]
In 1890, married Henrietta Worrall Harris; in 1932, he married Mrs. Ann Edith Strafford.[3] She died in 1950.[8] His son Frederic W. Ecker (1896-1964) was his second successor (after Leroy A. Lincoln) as president and chairman of Metropolitan Life.[9]